An event that accomplishes its intended purpose – this is how we define success. Does this always happen? Obviously not, because success does not come everyday to everyone. Also, it’s not easy to get success. The obvious reason – it involves very hard work. Not everyone is blessed with the quality of working hard to achieve one’s goal. One may not realize the importance of success or may feel it to be insignificant. Also, luck has a very important role to play in achieving success. Finally, it is the combination of all these things that lead to success – indeed a very complicated and difficult task.
Success has different levels. These different levels may serve as goals for different people. As a result, the benchmark for one may be under performance for other. This takes us to another conclusion about success, that success is not universal. It means different things to different people. However, this is also equally true that the expectations go on increasing as one goes on achieving one level after another. So, there is nothing like ultimate success or the final success.
Now, say one has achieved success of a particular level. Big deal. What after this? Well, lots of things indeed. Lots of things change after getting success. The person gets respect for his success. He gets recognition in the society, name and fame everything. Other success-seekers ask for consultation. It makes the person proud of his success. He begins to feel that he is worth something.
Success is not always about positives - again the double edged sword concept. While success brings happiness, recognition etc. on one side, it also carries along many things that one never desires. In simple words, success brings you as many foes as friends. Surprising, isn’t it? How can success bring foes? The very first reason being that in the path of achieving success for yourself, you have given failure to may others. How can you expect them to be good with you? Secondly, there were many others at same level as you, but now when you have achieved success, you have left them behind. The basic human nature doesn’t allow them to be very happy. Your success increases pressure on your counterparts to work harder, which they will not like. One last reason is that – there is no reason. As said by Chanakya, people get jealous of others’ achievements for no reason. Since this has no reason, it cannot have a solution.
There are some other things that change with success, like the way people talk to you. This too has a darker side. I am not sure if there is any change in your behavior, but those around you start feeling so. They tell you that you weren’t the same before. A few also comment that you have become too arrogant. Some others say that you have become too proud of your success and your success is not worth it. You may have never thought about all these, but those around certainly feel the change. And its not just one person, there are many who tell the same thing. So, where is the fault? Who is the culprit? Is it you, your success or those around you? I would say, all of these.
Unknowingly or knowingly, you may undergo some changes in your behavior which others point out quickly. The culprit is also success, because it is the may reason of controversy. It has given rise to the whole issue. Now, why those around you? Well, I believe they are responsible for changing their perception. So many things which you have been doing for ages, they feel you are doing it differently now. You yourself never felt so, but they do.
What is the way out? Well, there is no single solution as such. But one can try to be as humble as possible after his success. In fact he should be more humble after getting success. Because the perception of people is not in your hands. So, never give them a chance to comment on you. Those around can help sort out the issue by trying to understand the person. He has achieved something and probably expects something more. Give it to him as far has possible. Try to be as neutral as possible. Only then will success get its true respect.
Success has different levels. These different levels may serve as goals for different people. As a result, the benchmark for one may be under performance for other. This takes us to another conclusion about success, that success is not universal. It means different things to different people. However, this is also equally true that the expectations go on increasing as one goes on achieving one level after another. So, there is nothing like ultimate success or the final success.
Now, say one has achieved success of a particular level. Big deal. What after this? Well, lots of things indeed. Lots of things change after getting success. The person gets respect for his success. He gets recognition in the society, name and fame everything. Other success-seekers ask for consultation. It makes the person proud of his success. He begins to feel that he is worth something.
Success is not always about positives - again the double edged sword concept. While success brings happiness, recognition etc. on one side, it also carries along many things that one never desires. In simple words, success brings you as many foes as friends. Surprising, isn’t it? How can success bring foes? The very first reason being that in the path of achieving success for yourself, you have given failure to may others. How can you expect them to be good with you? Secondly, there were many others at same level as you, but now when you have achieved success, you have left them behind. The basic human nature doesn’t allow them to be very happy. Your success increases pressure on your counterparts to work harder, which they will not like. One last reason is that – there is no reason. As said by Chanakya, people get jealous of others’ achievements for no reason. Since this has no reason, it cannot have a solution.
There are some other things that change with success, like the way people talk to you. This too has a darker side. I am not sure if there is any change in your behavior, but those around you start feeling so. They tell you that you weren’t the same before. A few also comment that you have become too arrogant. Some others say that you have become too proud of your success and your success is not worth it. You may have never thought about all these, but those around certainly feel the change. And its not just one person, there are many who tell the same thing. So, where is the fault? Who is the culprit? Is it you, your success or those around you? I would say, all of these.
Unknowingly or knowingly, you may undergo some changes in your behavior which others point out quickly. The culprit is also success, because it is the may reason of controversy. It has given rise to the whole issue. Now, why those around you? Well, I believe they are responsible for changing their perception. So many things which you have been doing for ages, they feel you are doing it differently now. You yourself never felt so, but they do.
What is the way out? Well, there is no single solution as such. But one can try to be as humble as possible after his success. In fact he should be more humble after getting success. Because the perception of people is not in your hands. So, never give them a chance to comment on you. Those around can help sort out the issue by trying to understand the person. He has achieved something and probably expects something more. Give it to him as far has possible. Try to be as neutral as possible. Only then will success get its true respect.
